Lessons from Brooke Castillo

Friends,

Welcome to my new weekly post about lessons I am learning on a regular basis from Brooke Castillo of The Life Coach School. Her teachings have changed my life dramatically in the last year, and I see no end in sight for it. I tell people I am a different person today than I was a year ago, and that is 100% true! Although I have a long way to go (who doesn’t!), I have learned a tremendous amount that I would like to share with you. These life lessons should be taught in school. I would pay for an entirely second Master’s program to learn all of this in depth. In fact, the lessons I am learning from Brooke are more valuable than any degree I could ever hope to earn.

Brooke releases a new podcast episode every Thursday and has been doing so since 2014. What I hope to do with this blog series is to share with you what I am learning from her current and have learned from her past podcasts. I encourage you to download her podcast from iTunes called The Life Coach School and just take a listen to a handful of her excellent episodes. I promise you that you will be hocked!

So without further ado, here is the # 1 lessons I am working hard to apply to my life on a regular basis that has changed my outlook on everything:

Have no expectations of anyone.

This is a big one for me. I have learned, especially in the last year or so, to have no expectations of anyone. This may sound bizarre or negative, but it is actually very freeing. When you don’t expect anything from anyone, you do not make others responsible for how you feel (which is a whole other can of worms). When we expect things from others, we are imposing upon them our worldview. We are holding them responsible for how we thing they should act and show up in the world. This is a tremendous burden, not only for us to carry around but to thrust upon the other person.

We expect others to be polite, kind, thoughtful, responsible, on-time to a meeting with us, and so much more. In theory these things don’t sound bad, but in reality we are thrusting our way of life (or what we think is the appropriate way to behave in this world) on another adult. And most adults do not meet our expectations. Once they fail to live up to our standards, we hold them responsible and make them out to be the “bad guys”. All of a sudden, we’ve created a manual for the people in our lives that we throw at them every chance we get.

Listen to Brooke’s podcast episode # 11-The Manual-to learn from the master herself and truly grasp this idea of have no expectations of others. Of course there is a lot more that goes into that. We can create boundaries around people who choose not to be polite to us or who are unkind to us. We do not have to accept those behavior traits, but the general idea I want to convey here is—do not expect anything of anyone and you will never be disappointed.

Please take a moment to listen to Brooke’s life changing podcast. It’s Free! Please share with me your thoughts about this blog series and share with me if you’ve ever heard of Brooke or your thoughts on my biggest take-away from her podcast mentioned in this blog.

Until next time!

XOXO

Nilo